For the ones who’ve been dimmed, dismissed, and are finally ready to return to themselves.

(The Emotional, Energetic, and Unfiltered Glow-Up Guide for the Rest of Us)

Let’s get one thing straight before we go any further:

You were never ugly. You were just underfed—starved of praise, presence, protection, and being truly seen.

So if you’re here thinking, “I don’t feel pretty. I don’t feel attractive. How do I glow up?”

Then welcome, sacred one. Because this isn’t a beauty tutorial. This is a ritual of resurrection.

Why You Don’t Feel Pretty — And Why It’s Not Your Fault

You’ve been marketed to, manipulated, and micromanaged since you could crawl.

Taught that beauty meant thin, quiet, soft in all the wrong ways, and never inconvenient.

You were never meant to feel pretty under those rules.

Because prettiness, in that context, is obedience.

And what you really want isn’t to be pretty. It’s to feel POWERFUL in your presence.

It’s to feel like you walk into a room and belong there. Like your mirror is a portal, not a punishment.

So this isn’t just about makeup, outfits, or “hot girl” checklists (though we’ll get to that, too).

This is a full-body, nervous system-level GLOW-UP from the inside out.

What Is a Glow-Up? (The Real, Unfiltered Version)

A real glow-up isn’t just about physical transformation.

A real glow-up is when you:

• Rewire your internal narrative
• Start choosing yourself in public and in private
• Show up without apology, even when your voice shakes
• Start dressing like your soul is the stylist
• Finally become magnetic to the kind of love, money, and pleasure that actually feels good

It’s not about becoming someone else.

It’s about coming home to the version of you that existed before the world made her hide.

How Do I Glow Up?

Glowing up isn’t just about throwing on some lip gloss and calling it a day. it’s a full transformation that starts from the inside. Phase 1: Glow From the Ground Up focuses on emotional healing and mindset shifts that build a strong foundation. Then comes Phase 2: Glow Loud, where your energy, confidence, and presence start turning heads. Finally, Phase 3: Glow On Purpose is all about the visual and physical glow-up—style, skincare, and routines that reflect the best version of you.

Phase 1: Glow From the Ground Up (The Emotional Glow-Up)

From the Ground Up is all about building that emotional foundation that no one sees, but everyone feels. Before the outer glow comes the inner work, and this phase is where your emotional resilience starts to shine

1. Start with the shame

Ask yourself:

– Who told me I wasn’t attractive?
– What moments made me feel invisible or undesirable?
– What lie am I still carrying in my body every time I look in the mirror?

Write it out. Burn it. Cry about it. Scream if you need to. Then repeat:

“Their standards don’t define my sensuality. I do.”

2. Choose a new definition of beauty

If you don’t feel pretty, it might be because your definition was never yours.

New mantra:

“My beauty is not a decoration. It is a declaration.”

Make a list of what you find beautiful in others that has nothing to do with looks.

Now apply that list to yourself.

3. Reclaim the mirror as an altar

Start a mirror ritual every day. Not to critique. To witness.

Look yourself in the eyes and say:

• “I forgive you for hating this face.”
• “The skin held me when no one else did.”
• “I do not need to be prettier. I need to be present.”

Touch your body like it’s sacred. Even the parts you usually rush past.

Phase 2: Glow Loud (The Energetic Glow-Up)

Glow Loud is where your energy speaks before you do. This is the stage where confidence, passion, and presence take center stage, and your vibe becomes absolutely undeniable.

1. Learn to wear energy like eyeliner

You’ve seen those people. The ones who aren’t conventionally “hot” but walk in like the earth belongs to them?

That’s energy. That’s glow. That’s an unapologetic aura presence.

How to cultivate it:

• Stand like you’ve already been chosen
• Speak like you know your voice does things
• Walk like you know your thighs are blessed altars

2. Stop apologizing for your power

Want to glow up? Start saying these things:

• “No.”
• “That doesn’t work for me.”
• “I’m not shrinking for your comfort.”
• “I’ll wear this even if it makes you uncomfortable.”

The glow-up starts when you stop softening yourself for people who only feel safe around dim light.

Phase 3: Glow On Purpose (The Visual & Physical Glow-Up)

Glow On Purpose is where the outside finally catches up with all the inner work you’ve done. From style to self-care, this is the part where you show up looking like the elevated version of yourself—on purpose and unapologetically.

1. Dress like your alter ego is choosing

Create your own glow-up persona:

• What does she wear?
• What scent does she leave behind?
• What would she NEVER apologize for?

Then wear that on your next walk to the store.

You don’t have to lose weight. You don’t have to buy expensive things (stick to that budget!).

You just have to choose yourself loudly—in lipstick, in lace, in sneakers, in whatever makes you walk like a spell.

2. Play with seduction (even if no one’s watching)

Do a mirror strip tease for yourself.

Wear lingerie under your anxiety.

Oil your thighs while whispering, “You’re allowed to feel sexy without being sexualized.”

Desire yourself first. The world will catch up.

Bonus: Ritual Spell for When You Feel Ugly

You’ll Need:

• Black candle
• Mirror
• Rose oil or honey
• Your voice

Steps:

1. Anoint your fingers with rose oil or honey.
2. Touch your cheeks, your lips, your belly, your thighs.
3. Look yourself in the eyes and say:

“I am not ugly. I am untouched by false standards. I do not owe beauty. I am the altar. I am the offering. I glow because I exist.”

Let the candle burn. Let the mirror remember you.

Conclusion: Your Glow-Up is a Rebellion

You’re not here to fit in.

You’re here to shine so audaciously that shame packs its bags and self-doubt doesn’t survive the heat.

You are allowed to glow:

• With tears in your eyes
• In a messy room
• With breakouts
• With stretch marks
• With no makeup and all the power

You are not here to feel pretty. You are here to feel undeniable.

And trust me—that glow is coming. Not because you’re trying harder. But because you’re finally coming home.

Want more glow-up spells, mirror mantras, and rituals of resurrection?

Check out the “Hex Me, Touch Me, Worship Me” series—for glow that’s sacred, slutty, and seared into your soul.